Nobody seems to know what real dancing is. I suppose there are many different kinds of "real" dancing. Perhaps ten thousand different dances throughout the world. To find a real dance would be the easiest thing in the world or it would be quite impossible. Each person has to find their own.
"In Hawaii, dance blogs are enabling hundreds of dancers to express their opinions with
reduced political risk simply because of the sheer number of like-minded opinions online.
Facing these independent voices, the old clique machine starts to crumble."
Meanwhile we have several others dances immediately at hand, in which you can look like a male dancing more to your liking. And the ladies can look feminine more to your liking. The American Style of dancing and specially the Latin dances are a very good beginning, Although men have learned Salsa on the dance floors of night clubs on Oahu and many have done very well, they have also found it necessary to take lessons with a variety of Salsa dance teachers. You must have a great passion for the dance to learn without lessons.
"The Godfather Waltz" by Percy Faith
The most basic movements to music are in disco styling in night clubs, free style and not partner connected. From there you can proceed to line dancing, again without a partner. But the movements are programmed in sequence or a routine for each dance and you must follow it because everyone will be doing the same thing. The main thing, of course, is to listen to the music and then allow your body to move to it. The music first and then the movement. Not the way it is usually done in formal teaching.
"With Pen In Hand" by Vicki Carr
From there it is downhill and easy all the way. You would naturally be ready to learn to lead and partner dance. If you don't get in a hurry and just enjoy each stage of the game, you will eventually be a very good dancer. Hell, I know people that have been dancing for forty years without ever being in a competition. They must be having fun and that is the name of our game.